I love gratitude.
This time of the year is the best time to learn how to express it.
The word gratitude is derived from the Latin word gratia, which means grace, graciousness, or gratefulness. Gratitude is an appreciation for what an individual receives, whether it is tangible or intangible. With gratitude, people acknowledge the good in their lives. In positive psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.
People feel and express gratitude in multiple ways. They can apply it to the past by claiming positive memories and being thankful for elements of their childhood or past blessings, the present by not taking good fortune for granted as it comes, and the future by maintaining a hopeful and optimistic attitude. Regardless of the inherent or current level of someone’s gratitude, it’s a quality that individuals can successfully cultivate further.
So, how can gratitude change your mindset? Let’s take a closer look.
Gratitude journals have been known to help the reverse the cycle of negative thinking. The best way to do it is by just getting started and not overthinking how or a by employing a specific process. Make it a habit to write down thoughts about things in your life each day. Allow yourself just to write and not to overanalyze. A gratitude journal is a great way to think about what you’re grateful for in your life each day. What makes your life so amazing? What makes you feel blessed and happy? Think about those things and write about them!
There are some incredible benefits to keeping a gratitude journal, such as:
It is important to plan to maintain your journal on a consistent basis in order to continually capture all of the benefits. I love to write in mine each morning with a cup of coffee before I start my day. Some prefer to do it before bed because then they can capture their day. There isn’t a right or a wrong; it’s about just doing it!
Gratitude also has been known to improve health when it is expressed regularly. According to UCLA’s Mindfulness Awareness Research Center, expressing gratitude regularly literally changes the molecular structure of the brain, it keeps the gray matter functioning, and makes individuals healthier and happier. To consistently reap these health- and other- benefits we want to do this year-round. So, what else can gratitude do for us and our lives?
I have found that improving these things have also helped to improve other areas of life such as one’s career and job search and decisions related to those because it has improved the clarity and the power in which those decisions are made.
What better reason than to get started today?
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Scarcity. Not everyone is quite sure what this word means. In the simplest of terms, it means that one has a mindset that there will never be enough, whether that is money, food, emotions, or something else entirely. Most people suffer from scarcity and unfortunately, most people don’t realize it, either. However, when you suffer from scarcity your thoughts and actions stem from a place of lack. Instead of believing that you have enough or that there is plenty to go around, you cling to everything that you have out of fear of coming up short.
It can manifest as something small, such as not getting yourself a coffee even though you know you’re in dire need of caffeine or undertipping a server to much more substantial decisions, such as not investing in your retirement because you’re afraid of what might happen to the money or not changing jobs because you fear your salary might be less- so you settle and stay stuck and unhappy. This mindset keeps you from achieving wealth, growth, and advancement. Fear holds you back, so you’re constantly focused on keeping what you have and don’t seek new opportunities. So, you decline to fulfill your dreams, including your career dreams. You know that you’re underpaid but have a false sense of security by thinking you have to keep what you have and neglect to negotiate for more. Or you’re unhappy in your role and you would love to find something that fulfills you instead of feeling bored and like you’re not doing anything meaningful. But there’s a risk associated with that too because you have to give up your current paycheck and routine for something new and you prefer to cling to what you have.
The scarcity mindset also makes you feel unworthy of success and abundance. Instead, you will be focused on just getting by and avoiding any potential disaster. There likely won’t even be a reason to believe that things will even fall apart (this is an issue alone!) You will be putting all of your efforts towards just staying afloat so you will be reluctant to take any chances- even if it involves a small amount of money. The scarcity mindset will also force you to make poor choices and decisions. If you’re worried about your bank balance you might not want to open up your bills and even end up paying them at the last second- or worse, late. And I have news- the feelings do not go away on their own. In fact, they get EVEN worse, which increases the feelings of scarcity. So, how does all of this affect your career?
A scarcity mentality doesn’t see opportunities. Instead, it sees limitations. Change seems impossible and life is unfair. An abundance mindset is about believing that there is always more. This includes more opportunities, more ways to grow, and more ways to turn a bad situation into a success. And when someone is looking for new role, it can be mentally challenging. It requires an abundant mindset because not every interview will work out, not every role will be meant for you, and you won’t want each opportunity that is presented to you, either! It will force you to pass on opportunities and wait for the next one trusting the process and trusting that it exists and will appear.
So, let’s break this down a little further. Those with a scarcity mindset are more likely to hang onto a miserable job because they don’t think that they will ever find another one unlike those with an abundant mindset. Those with a scarcity mindset are more likely to fear competition, begrudge others of their accomplishments, and struggle relentlessly to achieve a milestone that proves you’ve arrived. In addition, they are likely to claim credit for themselves, constantly themselves to others, hold onto things that they never use, hoard money instead of making smart investments- even in oneself, and limits plans to only safe baby steps.
Your mindset is your choice. You can change it any time you’d like. You are not trapped there forever. We all have our circumstances that brought us there as well. However, as we grow up it is our choice to continue to stay there- or not. If you want to change your career and seek a massive salary increase, it will require an abundance mindset so you can think big and take the necessary risks. Once you remove the limitations placed on you, your career, and your life there is more than you could have ever imagined waiting for you!
We all love those quizzes that tell us about our personality types, how hard we hustle, or which profession you should choose.
How about the Buzzfeed quiz that tells you to grade yourself in a bunch of subjects and it tells what GPA you will graduate with? Or the one that lets you buy stuff for your dorm room and it tells you which job you choose after college? Or one of my favorites… plan your dream life and it reveals which bad ass woman from history you are?
If you’re not nodding in agreement by now…. I’m not so sure I believe you! These are so much fun and a great way to build connections and engagement.
Quizzes such as these are an amazing tool for your business to connect with potential clients and fans. It is so much fun to learn about yourself, even if it is in a humorous way.
One of the best part of these quizzes? They can be designed to fit your audience and your business niche. Here’s how you can do that based on your brand in coaching and consulting using Interact.
In the coaching and consulting industry, it is important not to begin teaching people about themselves before they are ready to hear it. If you tell them too soon, they probably will not listen to you. Or they may try it themselves and it will likely backfire.
With Interact, your audience can learn more about themselves, what they should do, and how they do it. These quizzes provide an opportunity not only to engage with potential clients and fans but to show them what they should do and how they should do it based on their own responses.
If you are a coach and consultant, particularly one in the Career and Leadership fields like I am, your main go-to is ensuring employment for your clients. Whether that’s just in the form of a resume, personal branding, LinkedIn, or a coaching program- your clients want to know that you know can guide them towards securing employment and advancement.
So, what can you tie into what your audience wants to know about themselves or learn about? Remember, you can’t teach people too much before they are ready. It’s best to teach them about your services and how your business solves their problems. For example, I would want to know about the services that are offered and how they differ from those of other coaches and consultants. Such as:
How do these services connect with your employees on a personal level? Affect them? Impact their lives?
Interact has easy to use and edit templates, which are adaptable to you and your business. There are quizzes that are based on personality or branding and further break off from there into a scored quiz, assessment, or personality. These provide opportunities for your audience to learn about themselves, the value of your services, and how it impacts them.
After you have selected your type, you can easily select a template and add your branding information, such as your logo.
The most difficult and time-consuming part of creating the quiz is writing the questions and answers. They must excite and intrigue your audience to engage with the quiz.
This can be done through the quiz results, which are also customizable. Interact allows its users to map out which responses correspond to which result. This also helps to build your tribe. Interact allows users to enter their email address to receive their results.
By doing so it also allows you to collect their email addresses. Interact also integrates with whatever email platform you use. This allows you to set up specific funnels and triggers based on results.
So, if you want to market to leads for career coaching then once you have those email addresses, you can set up funnels and send automatic emails with calls-to-action for to schedule for that service.
One of the most important parts is to keep the quizzes fun and engaging.
To create a successful quiz, it should be something fun and easy to share.
Interact is the solution to create, customize, and share your own quiz. They are easy to share on social media and you can use them to create ads on different platforms, such as Instagram and Facebook. Quizzes can be embedded on your site, added to your newsletter, a blog, or used as social media content. The idea is to get more people to take your quiz to broaden your reach or audience.
Get started with yours today by clicking here!
Online reviews have become so important to jobseekers and career changers. They are also now a staple in our society as to how to we make decisions in our lives.
On July 16th, 2019 Indeed published its Top-Rated Workplaces in 2019. This blog lists and disseminates these top-rated workplaces. There is no doubt that this list is incredibly diverse, including tech, finance, airlines, retail, and consumer products just to name a few.
According to Indeed:
An enjoyable work environment took precedence among employee reviews this year. A pleasant and satisfying work environment is important to one’s employee experience and their journey at an organization. A positive work setting and culture have been shown to lead to more engaged, productive, and happy workers who are more likely to stay with their current company.
Here is Indeed’s 2019 list of 50 Top-Rated Workplaces. Is your employer or dream career on the list? Wishing to work for one of these companies? Get out there & go for it!
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Not everyone on social media is an expert.
Yes, that’s right.
You can click on almost any social network and see someone giving advice. However, how effective is that advice? Has it worked for them? Anyone else? Are there any results to back up their claims, motivational quotes, or advice in their post or tweet?
For example, you see someone who posts a quote and it might sound like it fits you or your situation. If you took a deeper look at it, would this person have their own successful career? Or have they been fired a bunch of times, which of course an online audience would not know about. In this instance, they are likely the worst individual to be providing you with advice. Also, their LinkedIn profile may show employment, but that doesn’t mean its current information, either.
As a Career Coach and someone has helped clients land multiple job offers, dream careers, and salary increases up to $60K, I will tell you it takes a lot more than a post, a motivational quote or speech, or a tweet to get you any of those things. It takes consistency, dedication, a system that works, and a willingness to learn a new way to fix the issue at hand. It also takes an expert who has gotten transformational results for clients, and even themselves. This professional should be well-versed on the topic and how to solve any of the related issues as well. For example, if you’re searching for a new role but not receiving interviews. It’s important to try to understand why in order to put you in the right direction. Think about how a doctor diagnoses his or her patients. That is the approach that I take to solving problems. I will ask a lot of questions and look for the proof in what’s happening so I can get you on the best path possible while still getting results.
A smart coach once taught me that information does not equal transformation. All of this “expert” information on social media will not equate to a transformation for you. A big shift in your career requires a transformation. This requires the things I mentioned above, such as being dedicated. No one can want your transformation more than you do. Also, if you’re not willing to learn a new way to fix the problem then your will be closed, and you won’t be learning. If that’s the case, you likely won’t be successful, either. However, this is also why you want the guidance and support of a professional.
If you’re in need of a career transformation, then find an expert who has results to back that up. I am here to help you and guide towards those goals and would love to speak with you, too!
Change won’t come from hearing what we want to hear.
That’s powerful, isn’t it?
If someone tells us something just to please us, make us happy, or keep us safe then we won’t take any action to do what needs to be done, like finding a new job or making a career change.
Imagine you hate your job. You literally cannot envision spending another week there. Maybe even another day. But your best friend/ partner/ spouse tells you it’s not that bad and you’ve been through worse and can survive it.
She/ he just belittled your situation and you’re now not going to do anything to make a change about the thing that has been bothering you the most. Maybe you have been through another event in your life, but why does that mean that you have to suffer? Let alone suffer daily…Suffer almost every minute of the day…dread going to work, and even dread part of your weekends…unable to relax because you know what’s coming next…Your life and your career weren’t meant to be suffered or “dealt with”.
Did you ever think that maybe that person should try to deal with it instead before you giving advice that doesn’t work? (It’s okay, I won’t tell, I promise!)
It is oftentimes from the harshest truths that we learn what comes next in our lives.
I have spoken to women who have wanted to try to make it work in a current workplace because they are afraid what would happen if they left…Some have feared what it would like on a resume, who would hire them if they didn’t have enough experience, or if even they were too old.
What if I told you life would be better? It might even be better than what you’re letting yourself imagine. What would your career be like if you removed the limits? Would a $50K raise fit that bill? Once you’ve removed yourself from the nightmare, you can begin think about the dream.
The dream might sound unattainable but it’s not. It requires hard work and dedication- and thinking bigger. It also requires not letting anyone steal it from you just like that friend/ partner/ spouse belittled your situation. It is oftentimes those are that closest to us who are fearful for us and in an attempt to protect us and keep us safe- keep us inside of the bad situation instead. It’s up to us to fight for what we want. Now, if I sat here and told you exactly what you wanted to hear- that the people who are closest to you will always be in your corner- then you would believe them when they said it’s not “that bad” or “you can deal”. I’m here to tell you to listen to your gut and do something about the careers you hate, and life is too short to be miserable everyday- and you are worth more. And if you don’t believe that the dream is attainable, then it won’t be. But if you do believe that’s within your grasp, then it will be.
I’m here to help your dream career more attainable so you can live a happy, fulfilled life. If you’re ready to take action on that, I would love to speak with you. Click the link below to get started!
As a Career Coach, sometimes I feel like I hear everything when it comes to why people dislike their jobs and are unhappy in their careers. However, sometimes people don’t think about how the job search and career advice that they oftentimes hear, and think is beneficial is actually doing them a disservice and keeping them from achieving their goals. Let’s look at the 8 most common myths that are keeping you from achieving your career goals and fulfilling your career dreams.
You more than likely just fell into the black hole. Who said that there’s something wrong with your candidacy? Unless you have fact to back up the story you’re telling yourself, stop telling it because it’s just not true.
Negotiation is a two-sided conversation and is supposed to work in the favor of all of the parties involved. This isn’t just about you being paid more, it’s also about an employer benefiting from your expertise. Win-win!
Most people don’t work in the industry that they started out in and change careers at least once. If you want something new, stop waiting & just do it!
Most employers have been looking at this less and less because they have recognized that there is rarely any logical progression. If they’re not overthinking it, then why are you?
Jobseekers should never lower realistic salary demands because doing so will just make you appear desperate for the job — and will likely result in you not receiving the job offer. And even if you received the offer and accepted it, you would most likely never be happy in your job or with your employer because you would feel you were cheated out of the salary you deserved.
Recruiters and headhunters get paid by the companies who hire them to fill those positions. Their loyalty lies with the company who hired them, not with the candidates. Recruiters will not market to jobseekers to companies, they will instead to try to fit jobseekers into well-defined positions with the companies that employ them. They’re selling you what’s available.
I’m not a big believer of this one. Unless this offer represents absolutely everything you were already searching for, a better one will come along. If you and your family are truly struggling to make ends meet, then this might be a different story and that should be discussed in-depth. The best way to avoid desperate situations is by working with a professional who is well-versed at getting results and will get you the career and the salary that you want, too!
Unless this individual is an expert, stop believing whatever they are telling you. Just because something happened for one person doesn’t mean that it will be true for you or that this is even practical advice. Read: It can keep you searching even longer and make the process even more difficult!
If you’re still falling for any these, you are falling victim to what’s on the internet or what’s been spread around for years. Just because it is information does not mean that it will help you or get you to your dream career. There are only a few things that can help you do that:
We’ve all been there. We’ve all had a job that either kept us so busy that we didn’t know how to keep up or we just felt like we couldn’t handle being there one more minute, let alone one more day. So, how do we cope? Most of us would say by complaining, right? The Cut ran an article on April 22, 2019 discussing how complaining turns co-workers into friends.
I think most of us can relate to this since we’ve had at least one job in our careers that we didn’t love or wasn’t the right fit. Let’s take a look at why this is important and how it’s also a sign of something much bigger.
Forming bonds is healthy and a not only a necessary part of maintaining a healthy work-life balance, but it can also become a coping a mechanism. When we are carefully forming those bonds around those that we work with and getting to know each other, what we are really doing is evaluating each other and our values to see if we trust each other enough to share those complaints. Once we do, then it becomes a close friendship because there is a deep level of trust.
Complaining has been said to be a good way to develop friendships in the workplace. Using work-related complaints to acquire those friendships also can feel less risky than discussing personal topics to get to know our fellow co-workers.
However, what don’t we know about forming friendships in the workplace? Is there more than what meets the eye?
Complaining spreads like wildfire and can infect teams and a workplace. It can keep morale down and keep even the best employees from being productive.
According to the Harvard Business Journal, corporate culture is a powerful driver of human thought and behavior. It tells us what is revered and profane, what is right and wrong, good and bad. Corporate culture is what keeps us in line and ensures that we say, think, and do the right thing. “Right” is defined by our tribe, which is oftentimes our organizations. However, what happens when our tribe- and our organization are toxic?
The problem with getting to know someone in this way- by complaining- is that we are not fully getting to know them. So, how do we know if someone is a toxic employee?
Start by looking for the “dark triad”. Those with the tendency to exhibit one set of specific traits, which are known as the dark triad, oftentimes tend to be toxic employees or leaders.
Some additional signs of a toxic employee include:
Instituting a new culture doesn’t happen overnight. In fact, it can take some time because it requires changes in behavior. Remember, the next time you sit down with your co-worker to complain and criticize that it could have powerful consequences and negatively impacting those around you more than you may realize.
April is National Stress Awareness Month. It is important that during this time, we discuss what we can do to decrease our levels. However, what about workplace stress? According to the American Institute of Stress, there are numerous studies which show that workplace stress is the major source of stress for American adults and that it has progressively escalated over the past few decades. Increased levels of job stress have been associated with increased rates of heart attacks, hypertension, and other disorders. What are some of the main causes of this stress? 46% cite their workload, 28% mention people issues, 20% state juggling work and their personal lives, and 6% believe it is a lack of job security.
Stress is a highly personalized experience and can vary widely, even in identical situations for various reasons. One’s job stress and the severity of it is dependent on the extent of the demands that are being made and the individual’s sense of control or decision-making leeway is provided in dealing with them. There are scientific studies based on this model, which confirm that employees who sense that they are subjected to high demands but have little control are at an increased risk for cardiovascular disease.
It also has been found that occupations do not really matter because some individuals thrive in different types of fast-paced or slow-paced types of occupations. In other words, the type of role for an individual is very key to their levels of stress and managing them. This is why finding your dream career can also change your life.
Yes, this is true! Is it worth it to put your health and life at risk everyday just to stay in a position that makes us feel bored, anxious, stressed, or frustrated – and ultimately, unhappy? No, it’s not. You may think that it’s impossible to find a career that you love and doesn’t leave you feeling drained or unfulfilled but that’s simply not true. Your own happiness and fulfillment should be enough reason to make a switch, however, if it’s not- living a longer life should be.
What are some reasons that a fulfilling career leads to a healthier and happier life? Let’s take a look at some.
In short, if you are unhappy with your career, then taking control of your health and stress levels is very much worth it. Our workplaces may be a major source of our stress; however, we have control over if we want to remain in a dead-end, thankless, unfulfilled position that gives you a case of the “Sundays blues” every evening and every weekend.